tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392813728666980829.post8036286291653636304..comments2023-10-31T12:36:51.958-04:00Comments on look at the birds...: how loud is your voice?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11485045669938920115noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392813728666980829.post-64487142320560994782013-02-13T11:43:45.950-05:002013-02-13T11:43:45.950-05:00This. is. my. life. This. is. my. life. Shellsuffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04945556515947862368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392813728666980829.post-89546958063667625372013-02-13T09:39:54.710-05:002013-02-13T09:39:54.710-05:00dude, Jim's anger switch has an "off"...dude, Jim's anger switch has an "off" and and an "on". There is no middle ground. at all. Literally goes from zero to sixty in a flash. It irritates the ever loving crap out of me. I have a feeling it's a "Bird" thing. Not a huge fan. I used to react, now I just walk away and tell him to come talk to me when he's done yelling. I don't even give a reaction. This usually leads to a small fit which is followed with silence. The silence kills him. But it sends a pretty clear message that I'm not participating. Homey don't play that. Bridgett Nicolace-Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659820262017035533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392813728666980829.post-60615253480091701002013-02-12T08:02:37.424-05:002013-02-12T08:02:37.424-05:00Well Im in the same boat....sailing right up shit ...Well Im in the same boat....sailing right up shit creek ...we yell all day long....i want to stop. Really...I DO! But 5 and 3 year olds who live to EFF shit up make it kinda hard. Let me know what you find HA!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392813728666980829.post-67624694649615286282013-02-11T23:00:10.122-05:002013-02-11T23:00:10.122-05:00Let me know what you find, the hubs and I have had...Let me know what you find, the hubs and I have had this same convo this week. I have a sassy six year old and a terrible two year old. Lord help us all!Marissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12997805328468316918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392813728666980829.post-74698709887343376422013-02-11T20:49:38.483-05:002013-02-11T20:49:38.483-05:00Oh I'm a yeller... I try not to be but i just ...Oh I'm a yeller... I try not to be but i just get so ticked off so easily, whether it's at the hubs or the kids...<br /><br />One thing that has helped us is marbles. Kinsley can earn a marble for good behavior, for going to bed without problems, for listening/obeying the first time. But she can also lose a marble for the same things. <br /><br />It's actually helped a lot. If she is pitching a fit i tell her she will lose a marble if she doesn't stop... sometimes she'll stop, other times she loses a marble. If she handed her brother a toy to play with just to be nice, she earns a marble. She loves it! Then when she gets 30 marbles she gets to do something like get her nails done, or something she equally enjoys. <br /><br />Tonight though she went straight to bed with no dinner. she didn't want to eat what i made and chose to go to bed rather than eat it. (she did have a good bit of snacks...) but there were no tears (this time...)<br /><br />good luck... three sucks... i can't wait to go through it again in 2 years with Parker! habreedwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11574996082029219201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392813728666980829.post-40664393240709304192013-02-11T15:15:28.263-05:002013-02-11T15:15:28.263-05:00I have really been struggling with this lately too...I have really been struggling with this lately too!! I definitely fear yelling too much at my kids, especially because I was yelled at a lot as a kid. When my almost 3-year-old started yelling back (or yelling out of the blue) I was ashamed. Lately, I have been trying really hard to take a deep breath and stop myself from yelling, even if I catch myself mid yell, and speak calmly but firmly. Sometimes, for the really bad times, I have to put her in another room, say to her "I am angry right now so I cannot talk to you," and then walk away. When I am calmed down, I can deal with her better, and normally she has realized more from my walking away how upset I am and is ready to apologize. <br /><br />Another huge thing for me lately (and more humbling for sure) is looking at WHY I am yelling and why she is acting out. Is it because I have not been paying attention to her one on one? Is it because I am frustrated and aggravated because I am not getting enough done (probably because I have been on the computer too much)? A lot of times, my yelling is rooted more in myself than my kids.<br /><br />And lots and lots of prayer and accountability from other moms. I am reading an awesome book called "Desperate- Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe," and that is really encouraging me. <br /><br />I love your blog, btw. Congrats on #3!!!Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05238136485929463781noreply@blogger.com